We are all different in different ways but it’s the similarities that cause us the most problems. We want the same materialistic items, this causes competition in almost all we do. We all fight for the same jobs. Once we get these jobs we are still fighting. We are in competition for the next promotion. It’s Christmas time and we are all shopping for the same “got to have toy.”once we realize that our similarities are the reason we aren’t happy we can change.
Go against the grain. Do the opposite of what you would normally do. Do the opposite of what others are doing. I’m not saying that competition is bad or that wanting the same things as other is bad. What I’m saying is go about them in a different way. If two people are competing for a promotion and the masses are all coming in early and staying late just to do job. Why do you want to do that? Find a way to be more efficient. Do the work without staying late or going in early. Get the promotion by creating a new process or making an existing process better. Do the opposite.
I read a quote saying that the rich stay rich by acting as if they are broke. This is the exact opposite of what you would think happens. If you are rich why not act as if you are rich. Then again, we see those people who win the lottery and immediately start going out and buying house, boats, and whatever they want and what happens to them? They were rich and acting rich and they end up broke. By doing the opposite you can keep your money instead of throwing it all away.
When people are at work, they complain about work. When they are at home, they complain about not having anything to do. Do the opposite, don’t complain. Enjoy your job because it gives you something to do and it pays you. Enjoy being at home because it’s relaxing and it gives you time to do whatever your heart desires.
Growing up my mother always told me this ridiculous thing and to this day I cannot forgetit ,” If your friends all jumped off the bridge, would you do it to?” In a sense my mom was just telling me to do the opposite without me knowing it. Granted in this case this was just my mom’s way of telling me no. It was very good advise not to do what everyone else was doing.
I stopped complaing, I stopped trying to act rich, and I could not be happier. Just do the opposite.
Thanksgiving has come and gone again. We all have left overs in the fridge and our lives have continued. After the left overs our gone we don’t even think about the day until the following year. This is sad to think about.
Thanksgiving is a day we get together with friends and family alike to “Give Thanks” for everything in our lives. We have dedicated one day of the year to be grateful for everything we have. Why is it that we only do this for one day? We should give thanks for everything we have in this life alot more often. Realize what you have and give thanks. Bring positivity into your life. Try arranging a Thanksgiving type meal more then once a year. Invite your friends, invite your family, and invite anyone close to you to get together and enjoy a meal. Granted it does not have to be a huge turkey dinner every time but prepare the meal together. The comradery that comes from working together and then enjoying the spoils is priceless. Bring everyone together and bring more happiness into your life.
This world is governed by laws. There is a law for everything we know and everything we do. We grow up and our parents are the first people to tell us what we can and cannot do. As we start getting older and attend school we start to learn other laws. We learn about laws that the government have imposed for the safety of the community and ourselves. Mathematics have there own set of laws. Then there is the law of attraction.
The law of attraction states that you attracted the same things that you put out. The main difference to this is that you actually get more of the same that you put out. When you are out and about try to frown. Do not smile at anyone and see what happens. Everyone you encounter will scowl back at you or just look at you with confusion or empathy. These people do not know you, do not know anything about you but instinctually return the emotions that you are putting out.
This time go out and smile. Smile at everyone you see and watch the immense difference. People will now greet you with excitement and happiness. Just as the law of attraction states you will get more then you put out. Strangers will see you as being more approachable and will see you as someone they want to be around.
Be happy. Smile. Even if you are having a bad day do whatever you can put a smile on your face. Surround yourself with other happy people and it will be contagious. You can have a bad day and still be happy.
Usually, date nights are meant for couples. At the root it is two people getting to know each other better, spending time together, and doing stuff they both enjoy. If you really look at the activities that go on during a date, they can all be done as an individual.
Go on a date with yourself. Take some time to get to know yourself. Think about your dreams, your desires, and your future. Go out and do the things that you enjoy doing. Do what ever you want to do. Go out, stay in, hang out with friends, go do what makes you happy. Enjoy yourself and be happy doing the things that make you happy. While doing all of this you will come to find out more about yourself. These activities should be your focus in your life. Don’t go looking for happiness. If you are doing things that make you happy, You are already there.
When you want to be happy you need to surround yourself with things that make you happy.
We all have a friends, family, and people In our lives that we surround ourselves with everyday. Matthew Kelly said “The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards.” My standard for life is quite high. I expect alot out of myself and so should you. Why would you want to keep people around who do nothing but complain about everything. These people are toxic to your mental well being. If you are having a great day, these people are the type to find one simple aspect of your day to try and bring you down to their level. They can not stand for you or anyone around them to be happy.
These people need to be kept at a distance. When you choose to be happy you need to keep like minded friends. Friends who build you up and whom you can do the same. If you can not keep them at a distance and they are able to bring you down, you may want to really consider if they are a friend worth having. Think, how are they affecting my happiness? Would you be better off with a different kind of person in your life?
Family is a part of your life from the beginning and they have helped mold your view of happiness. Most of us would say that we had a nice childhood. Take a look at your family, not as a whole but as individuals. Are they happy? Are they pleasant to be around? Are they good for your happiness?
Choosing Happiness isn’t always easy but once you make the decision to choose be to happy you will see a better life ahead of you.