Tag: happiness

Self investment

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in Uncategorized

Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, RO(Return On Investment) , 401k, and IRA’s, these are great things to consider when planning your financial future. But all of these financial things is not what I’m talking about.

I want to know what you are doing for yourself? Are you reading books? Are you meditating? Are you taking a break every once in a while just to enjoy the sunshine? What could you be doing to maximize the ROI of your life?

You can always start by focusing on yourself and being happy. Rid your life of negative thoughts, negative people, and any type of things in your life that are not bringing you a benefit.

Negative thoughts are toxic to your well being and your well being is your investment. You need to keep your investment in mind in everything that you do.

The biggest investment you can make is in yourself. You are a long term investment that you want to get the most out of. You cannot sell this one short. You have one life, one investment, and the good thing is that you will get whatever you put into it. You are the manager of your investment portfolio and you need to nurture it and develop it for the long term.

Mental strength

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

Your mind is a beautiful thing. You can create and shape the world that you live in with a simple thought. The masses always say, “I will believe it when I see it.” This is such an old way of thinking that it has become engrained in our minds. The way this is worded is saying that until you see something you will not be able to believe it. All the words are there we just need to change the order in which we recite them. Why don’t you say “I will see it when I believe in it.” This may not seem like a huge difference but this small change will change your entire life.

Your mind is so powerful that it will shape the life you have. Tell your mind you are happy and it will show you more things to make you happy. Use your mind to create the life you want.

Your mind needs practice and needs training. This is something you have to work on. It won’t happen over night. Once you gain this mental strength your life will begin to change.

Believe that you can be wealthy. Believe that you can have everything that you desire. Believe you can find happiness in anything you do. Believe in yourself. Once you believe, your mind will find the path you need to be on. You control what your mind believes and your mind will control what you achieve

Rejection

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness

Growing up I was never the best looking person out there. I was never the most talented. There were always people who were better them myself in any field or anything I attempted. 

I wish I would have known what I know now when I was younger. I’m sure most people have either heard this said or said this themselves. Does this mean we wish we were smarter? Does this mean we wish we would have done something different? Does this mean we should have said something instead of staying quiet? All this is saying is that we made a choice and regret not making a different choice. It says that rather then taking a chance and doing the thing we wanted, we said nothing or did nothing in fear of being rejected. 

As we age and look back on our life we will think back and remember how things could have been different. Things could have been different if you would have taken that job or reached out to that person from your past. We will remember everything in our lives that we regret not doing. 

When we get older I would rather know that I took a chance and got rejected for my ideas rather then regret not sharing them. I would rather be rejected by that pretty girl then think about, what if she could have been my wife. We should not get older and think about what could have been. We should age and look back on everything we choose to do and how the idea of regret out weighed the idea of rejection. Don’t live your life knowing that you could have done better, that you could have been better. 

Get older, look back and know that you lived a great life. 

Decide to be happy

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness and you

When you wake up tomorrow think about the kind of day you want to have and you will find out that, that kind of day happens. Even if the day you would want to happen doesn’t, you need to act as if it did. Ghandi said it best, ” Be the change you want to see in the world.” Act as if. Play the role. Be happy in the face of adversity. 

What are the things you would do if you were happy? I can tell you with absolute certainty that you would not want to waste your time being in a state of unhappiness. You may go out with friends, be outside enjoying the weather, you could be doing any number of things. This is you. Be the type of person you want to be even if you currently are not. Happiness is a choice and you can decide whether or not you are going to be happy with every decision you make.  Stop making the decision to be unhappy. 

How to build habits

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

Everyone has habits. Some we know of and other we may have no idea that we have.  Building a good habit is quite easy and you can also use the act of building a good habit to replace older habit that no longer serve you. There are only three steps to building a new habit: Head, Heart, and Hands.

The Head part of this is probably the easiest. This only consist of determining the habit in which you want to create. Think about the end result you want to accomplish. Do you want to wake up earlier? Do you want to start exercising more often? Whatever you want to do, you just need to think it up. This is the first step to creating your new habit. Head.

Heart is the second step and it is a bit more complicated. Complicated in the way of truly understanding not in the way of being difficult. The Heart step is looking at the habit you want to create and deciding why you want to create it. What is it about the habit that makes it so important to you. No matter the habit you wish you create there will be something, or maybe someone, that is the driving reason for it. Even if it is the same habit, it is assured that the reason for it will vary by person. The reason for the habit has to linger inside you even when you don’t think about it. The reason you want to build this habit will be so personal that you can not even consider the idea of not being able to do it. This is the Heart.

The last step of building a habit is the Hands. This is the final step of building a habit.  Hands is the action step. It is time to start doing the habit. You have had the idea(Head), you have the reason(Heart), and it is now time to act(Hands).  Start doing the habit which you want to build. Whatever habit you want to build, start doing it.

This is all it takes to build a habit.

When you choose to change a habit you already have it is simple.  Follow the same previous steps and start with the opposite of the habit you are trying to rid yourself of. If you don’t wake up early enough because you stay up watching TV. The the new habit may be to shut the TV off at an early time.  This is the Head, now just determine the Heart and put it into action with the Hands.

Good luck with changing your life for the better.

Be different

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness

We are all different in different ways but it’s the similarities that cause us the most problems. We want the same materialistic items, this causes competition in almost all we do. We all fight for the same jobs. Once we get these jobs we are still fighting. We are in competition for the next promotion. It’s Christmas time and we are all shopping for the same “got to have toy.”once we realize that our similarities are the reason we aren’t happy we can change. 

Go against the grain. Do the opposite of what you would normally do. Do the opposite of what others are doing. I’m not saying that competition is bad or that wanting the same things as other is bad. What I’m saying is go about them in a different way. If two people are competing for a promotion and the masses are all coming in early and staying late just to do job. Why do you want to do that? Find a way to be more efficient. Do the work without staying late or going in early. Get the promotion by creating a new process or making an existing process better. Do the opposite. 

I read a quote saying that the rich stay rich by acting as if they are broke. This is the exact opposite of what you would think happens. If you are rich why not act as if you are rich. Then again, we see those people who win the lottery and immediately start going out and buying house, boats, and whatever they want and what happens to them? They were rich and acting rich and they end up broke. By doing the opposite you can keep your money instead of throwing it all away. 

When people are at work, they complain about work. When they are at home, they complain about not having anything to do. Do the opposite, don’t complain. Enjoy your job because it gives you something to do and it pays you. Enjoy being at home because it’s relaxing and it gives you time to do whatever your heart desires. 

Growing up my mother always told me this ridiculous thing and to this day I cannot forgetit ,” If your friends all jumped off the bridge, would you do it to?” In a sense my mom was just telling me to do the opposite without me knowing it. Granted in this case this was just my mom’s way of telling me no. It was very good advise not to do what everyone else was doing. 

I stopped complaing, I stopped trying to act rich, and I could not be happier. Just do the opposite. 

Thanks Giving

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness and you

Thanksgiving has come and gone again. We all have left overs in the fridge and our lives have continued. After the left overs our gone we don’t even think about the day until the following year. This is sad to think about. 

Thanksgiving is a day we get together with friends and family alike to “Give Thanks” for everything in our lives. We have dedicated one day of the year to be grateful for everything we have. Why is it that we only do this for one day? We should give thanks for everything we have in this life alot more often. Realize what you have and give thanks. Bring positivity into your life. Try arranging a Thanksgiving type meal more then once a year. Invite your friends, invite your family, and invite anyone close to you to get together and enjoy a meal. Granted it does not have to be a huge turkey dinner every time but prepare the meal together. The comradery that comes from working together and then enjoying the spoils is priceless. Bring everyone together and bring more happiness into your life. 

It’s Easy

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness and you

Anything you want to do is easy. If you want to change, if you want to make money, if you want a better job and anything you can think of is quite easy to obtain. Then why don’t you have absolutely everything you want in your life, because anything easy to do is also easy not to do. 

The only reason we don’t have all the things we want is because it is easier to do something else. Human nature is to take the easiest path possible. We know that we should exercise but it is easier to turn on Netflix and relax. We always choose the easiest path. We all want to be happy and enjoy our life but it’s just so much easier to complain about it rather then change it. 

The key to this is realizing what we are doing. Realize that the easiest way to do things isn’t always what is best. Think about what you are doing and how it will affect you in the long run. You have to make conscious and deliberate decisions throughout your day. What do you want and how are you going to get there. These things need to aid your daily decisions. It really is that easy. 

Change

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you

Are you happy in your life? Are you happy with the amount of money you make? Are you happy at your job? Are you happy with the car you drive? Are you happy with the area you live in? These are the only a few questions we have about our own life. The thing that they all have in common is the solution. Change. 

If you are unhappy about the answer to any of those questions the answer is simple, change.  Einstein said that ,”Insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting different outcomes.” If you are unhappy quite doing the same thing over again. It’s time for change. 

Get a new job. Save money for a new car. Look for a new place to live. Go back to school and build your education so you can make more money. Everything you need to do means you have yo change. Change takes time and you have to put the time in to achieve it. Think about what you want. Make the necessary changes in you life and then be happy. Be happy with your car, your job, the amount of money you make. You deserve to be happy and if you are not, it is time to change. 

Law of Attraction

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

This world is governed by laws. There is a law for everything we know and everything we do. We grow up and our parents are the first people to tell us what we can and cannot do. As we start getting older and attend school we start to learn other laws. We learn about laws that the government have imposed for the safety of the community and ourselves. Mathematics have there own set of laws. Then there is the law of attraction. 

The law of attraction states that you attracted the same things that you put out. The main difference to this is that you actually get more of the same that you put out. When you are out and about try to frown. Do not smile at anyone and see what happens. Everyone you encounter will scowl back at you or just look at you with confusion or empathy. These people do not know you, do not know anything about you but instinctually return the emotions that you are putting out. 

This time go out and smile. Smile at everyone you see and watch the immense difference. People will now greet you with excitement and happiness. Just as the law of attraction states you will get more then you put out. Strangers will see you as being more approachable and will see you as someone they want to be around. 

Be happy. Smile. Even if you are having a bad day do whatever you can put a smile on your face. Surround yourself with other happy people and it will be contagious. You can have a bad day and still be happy.