Category: Happy

Mental strength

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

Your mind is a beautiful thing. You can create and shape the world that you live in with a simple thought. The masses always say, “I will believe it when I see it.” This is such an old way of thinking that it has become engrained in our minds. The way this is worded is saying that until you see something you will not be able to believe it. All the words are there we just need to change the order in which we recite them. Why don’t you say “I will see it when I believe in it.” This may not seem like a huge difference but this small change will change your entire life.

Your mind is so powerful that it will shape the life you have. Tell your mind you are happy and it will show you more things to make you happy. Use your mind to create the life you want.

Your mind needs practice and needs training. This is something you have to work on. It won’t happen over night. Once you gain this mental strength your life will begin to change.

Believe that you can be wealthy. Believe that you can have everything that you desire. Believe you can find happiness in anything you do. Believe in yourself. Once you believe, your mind will find the path you need to be on. You control what your mind believes and your mind will control what you achieve

Pessimism

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness and you, Happy

Even pessimism can move you forward with your goals. Pessimism is simply not seeing the positive aspects in whatever you are focused on. It’s okay not to see the positive side of things. Seeing the negative should only make you work that much harder.

Are you making enough money? No your not. Are you at the best job you could be? No you’re not. You can always be better at whatever you are doing. Never settle. Never be happy with where you are. Always move forward and when you think you have gone as far as you can go, go just a bit further. You are alot better then you give yourself credit for.

Let the negativity you see inspire you to do and be more.

How to build habits

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

Everyone has habits. Some we know of and other we may have no idea that we have.  Building a good habit is quite easy and you can also use the act of building a good habit to replace older habit that no longer serve you. There are only three steps to building a new habit: Head, Heart, and Hands.

The Head part of this is probably the easiest. This only consist of determining the habit in which you want to create. Think about the end result you want to accomplish. Do you want to wake up earlier? Do you want to start exercising more often? Whatever you want to do, you just need to think it up. This is the first step to creating your new habit. Head.

Heart is the second step and it is a bit more complicated. Complicated in the way of truly understanding not in the way of being difficult. The Heart step is looking at the habit you want to create and deciding why you want to create it. What is it about the habit that makes it so important to you. No matter the habit you wish you create there will be something, or maybe someone, that is the driving reason for it. Even if it is the same habit, it is assured that the reason for it will vary by person. The reason for the habit has to linger inside you even when you don’t think about it. The reason you want to build this habit will be so personal that you can not even consider the idea of not being able to do it. This is the Heart.

The last step of building a habit is the Hands. This is the final step of building a habit.  Hands is the action step. It is time to start doing the habit. You have had the idea(Head), you have the reason(Heart), and it is now time to act(Hands).  Start doing the habit which you want to build. Whatever habit you want to build, start doing it.

This is all it takes to build a habit.

When you choose to change a habit you already have it is simple.  Follow the same previous steps and start with the opposite of the habit you are trying to rid yourself of. If you don’t wake up early enough because you stay up watching TV. The the new habit may be to shut the TV off at an early time.  This is the Head, now just determine the Heart and put it into action with the Hands.

Good luck with changing your life for the better.

Talent

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in Happy

Most of us have things that we are just good at. Something that we have an innate aptitude for. This may be a physical or mental skill. We have all heard someone say,”That person has a god given talent.” In other words that person is good without ever practicing. Talent is great but it has the drawback of being taken for granted. If you are good at s9mething and you never put the work in to be good at it you will not appreciate it. Most of us have these talents and we do nothing to appreciate them. Talents go to waste. 

Schools teach us to be well rounded and to know a little about everything. By all means we should know a little of everything but dont neglect your talent. Learn as much as you can and make sure to spend time cultivating your talent. If you are a good artist then you should draw, if you’re good at basketball then play basketball, whatever you have a talent for then that is what you should do. 

You are most happy when you are doing well at something, so why wouldn’t you do it more often. Figure out what you are good at and spend time being happy. 

Law of Attraction

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

This world is governed by laws. There is a law for everything we know and everything we do. We grow up and our parents are the first people to tell us what we can and cannot do. As we start getting older and attend school we start to learn other laws. We learn about laws that the government have imposed for the safety of the community and ourselves. Mathematics have there own set of laws. Then there is the law of attraction. 

The law of attraction states that you attracted the same things that you put out. The main difference to this is that you actually get more of the same that you put out. When you are out and about try to frown. Do not smile at anyone and see what happens. Everyone you encounter will scowl back at you or just look at you with confusion or empathy. These people do not know you, do not know anything about you but instinctually return the emotions that you are putting out. 

This time go out and smile. Smile at everyone you see and watch the immense difference. People will now greet you with excitement and happiness. Just as the law of attraction states you will get more then you put out. Strangers will see you as being more approachable and will see you as someone they want to be around. 

Be happy. Smile. Even if you are having a bad day do whatever you can put a smile on your face. Surround yourself with other happy people and it will be contagious. You can have a bad day and still be happy. 

Dreaming and Complaining

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in friends, happiness, happiness and you, Happy

A great nights sleep with lots of dreams is a wonderful thing. If you are lucky enough is remember your dreams you have a small insight into your subconscience. Your dreams are an extension of your conscious mind. You wake up and feel great, remembering all that your dream had to show you. These glimpses you have are showing you your true potential. Dreams show you what you can achieve and all that you can become. 

We wake up and begin our day and we forget our dreams ever so quickly. We clomp about our day and encounter different things. This is when we start to complain. Sometimes we complain out loud and sometimes we keep it inside. We bury our complaints and pretend they are not there or we find those like minded and let our complaints be heard. 

Amazingly enough dreaming and complaing are extremely similar. They both lead to nothing, achieve nothing, and will soon fade away into your mind. Don’t be this type of person. Rather then complain or to let your dreams fade away, do something. 

Your complaints will disappear when you start doing something about them. Complain, figure out how to fix it, and then work to remedy this problem. Sounds easy but this takes time and work. It takes you doing something about it. Work on the things you don’t  like in you life and soon you will have nothing to complain about. 

Dreams only fade when you wake up because you choose to do nothing. Just like fixing complaints in your life, it takes work. Remember you dreams and work to achieve them. If you dream about a better  job, then start looking. If you dream about a partner then start dating. Whatever your dream is it will take work to accomplish. 

Complaining and dreaming are completely different actions. Yet they are quite similar and will be achieved in the same way. Once started your life will begin changing in ways that you will not be able to explain. Your complaints will fade and your dreams will become a reality. 

Bad Days

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

We have all had bad days and we will all have bad days in the future. No matter what we do things will not always go as we plan. The only choice we have is how these occurrences will change the course of the day. We can make the choice to either let our day continue to fall prey to the negativety or rise above it. 

There will be days that no matter what you do or try you will not be able to shake this bad day. Things will seem hopeless and you will feel like this day will never end. All days end. The bad day that you are having is like all other days. It will come and go and you will move on. If you stop and think, can you even remember your last real bad day? I know that I can’t. During the day you need to try and focus on the good things in your life no matter how small or insignificant they may be. The good things may be as simple as I ate a good breakfast or I have a day off coming in the near future. These little things need all of your attention on your bad days. If you focus on the aspects of life that are discouraging you and sapping your happiness, you are just giving those things power over you. You need to take that power back and focus on only good things. Focus on your own happiness. Focus on that great breakfast you had, on all the things you can accomplish on your day off, and take the power back from the bad day. You are stronger then any bad day. The day will come and go and you will persevere. 

Mindfulness

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, happiness and you, Happy

Lao Tzu said it best “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” 

Being mindful means to be fully aware and conscious of something. Make that something, yourself. Take a moment to think about how you feel, what is going on in your life, and how it is affecting you. 

If something happened to you in the past and it is on your mind it is okay to acknowledge it, but dont let it controls your attitude for the day. Take time to think about it, contemplate what steps to take because it happened, and then move on. You are the sum of your experiences and they have helped to shape you into the person that you are today. Be happy with who you have become because no one else has gone through exactly what you have. 

But what if you are busy worrying about the future and the things that may happen? The best advise that I can give you is that the future is always changing. You cannot control the future, you can only help it to take shape. You shape the future with the things that you do today. Rather then living in the future you should focus on the present. The things that you do today will become your future. The quote that was originally used for farmers says it best, ” You reap what you sow.” It literally means what you do now will lead to what you have in the future. 

Throughout the day you need to stop a moment and take a moment to be mindful. Look around you. Take in the sights, smells the aromas that surround you, and ask yourself “How am I doing right now?” This little step done throughout the day will assist you in being mindful. This keeps you from living in the past with depression, living in the future with anxiety, and will keep you in the present, at peace. 

Date night

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in Date night, happiness, Happy

Usually, date nights are meant for couples. At the root it is two people getting to know each other better, spending time together, and doing stuff they both enjoy.  If you really look at the activities that go on during a date, they can all be done as an individual. 

Go on a date with yourself. Take some time to get to know yourself. Think about your dreams, your desires, and your future. Go out and do the things that you enjoy doing. Do what ever you want to do. Go out, stay in, hang out with friends, go do what makes you happy. Enjoy yourself and be happy doing the things that make you happy. While doing all of this you will come to find out more about yourself. These activities should be your focus in your life. Don’t go looking for happiness. If you are doing things that make you happy, You are already there. 

Anger

by Rocky Fuentes, posted in happiness, Happy

The things that happen to you don’t have to make you angry. Being angry is your choice, and you should choose to be happy. You cannot change or choose what happens to you but you decide how you react to them. 

When you wake up it’s your choice, you can either continue with your normal routine or you can make the choice to be happy no matter what occurs. You can be angry with the fact that you have to go to work or be happy that you have a job to go to. When you get to work you may encounter people who are angry and choose to take there anger out on you. Do you react to there anger by combating it with more of the same or do you temper the situation with happiness. It is my experience with angry people that they just need a soundboard to hear them out. They choose to react with anger because they woke up that morning and choose that path.  Once they are heard they calm down quite quickly.  If you try and battle them with anger of your own you are merely putting gasoline on the fire of anger. Their anger grows and the situation escalates. Instead, hear them out, don’t speak, just listen.  They will eventually fizzle out, just like a fire without fuel. Once the fire is gone, ask if you can help. Don’t offer an answer unless they ask for one. Most people just want you to show merit to their issue. 

On the way home from work a car is speeding through the traffic and cuts you off. This used to be one of the most aggravating things for me to encounter. I would be so angry I would be yelling in my car as if the person in the other vehicle could hear me.  I would get so angry. One day I found myself speeding through traffic and I cut someone off. I really needed to use the restroom and I felt bad for the person I cut off. This was a moment of enlightenment for me. Maybe the people that cut me off need to use the restroom as badly as I did that day. Now when someone cuts me off in traffic I tell myself, they need to use the restroom. Guess what, I don’t get mad at them. 

Granted all the people I encounter won’t be receptive of my happiness but I take solice in the fact that I did not respond with anger. I choose to be happy and no matter what happens.